tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post7616195475234558249..comments2023-10-09T02:29:33.603-07:00Comments on Thoughts of the All Consumed Bride: Am I expecting too much of my bridesmaids?Born to be Mrs. Beeverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10186370322714278012noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-9326225247294196502011-04-27T07:29:08.616-07:002011-04-27T07:29:08.616-07:00"there's not much more they have to do fo..."there's not much more they have to do for me other than show up to my shower, bachelorette party and the rehearsal and wedding."<br /><br />Shower. Bachelorette party. Rehersal dinner. Wedding. I know this is standard stuff for a lot of brides but that adds up for your bridesmaids and I personally think it's too much money to spend on someone. Especially the girl flying in. But it is not an issue if they all want to do it and since none of them have voiced any issue with it then everyone is happy and you can't be blamed with asking for too much. They are big girls and if they had an issue with it financially - they should speak up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-55970284698313600972010-01-26T04:55:29.492-08:002010-01-26T04:55:29.492-08:00The contract is too funny.
You are fine and not a...The contract is too funny.<br /><br />You are fine and not at all demanding. I remember I had some drama because I was bummed my only NYC bridesmaid went cat food shopping instead of dress shopping with me 1 day (she thought I would be jetlagged and wouldn't make the appointment). She also (I thought) inferred I should throw my own shower if we did a couple's shower. I was bummed and blogged about it and she got upset and random people got crazy. Communication and expanding on details were the key after than.<br /><br />Anyway, I never really asked my girls to do anything until we assembled the programs. One MOH was going to do calligraphy and didn't have time. It was my time so I didn't want them to spend money on anything except getting here (which I couldn't really assist with).<br /><br />The laughter, fun, and sisterhood of your closest ladies is of course priceless.little luxury listhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17630812969476483227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-80769414741723598582010-01-25T08:48:09.934-08:002010-01-25T08:48:09.934-08:00I think you sound like you are definitely being ch...I think you sound like you are definitely being chill enough. And your dress prices were very reasonable I think. <br /><br />I haven't had any bridesmaid issues because I haven't asked them to do anything. I think the reasons you aren't having problems is because you are keeping the pressure off of them. From what I've seen, problems happen when the bride is much needier and then a maid of honor or bridesmaid can't devote that time to her "duties" and it causes a rift. I went into it without assigning them any duties because really all I want is for them to be there to stand up with me on my day, not to help plan my wedding. That's mine and my fiancé's job.<br /><br />I think firing one of your friends from the bridal party is a ridiculous thing to do. A wedding is not worth ruining a friendship over. I'm also heavily against contracts like that, but that's just my opinion. Being a bridesmaid shouldn't be a job. It's an honor.Salthttp://www.saltsays.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-60560877577408433012010-01-25T06:55:13.657-08:002010-01-25T06:55:13.657-08:00hi! i forgot to respond to your question on my la...hi! i forgot to respond to your question on my last comment.<br /><br />It was a combination between a booth and just fabric. Hard to explain. From the website: "Our spacious photobooth measures 5ft. X 5ft. and stands over 6ft. tall. It is draped in regal black velvet. The screen outside allows for people in line to join in the fun! It is wheel chair accessible and has room for all your friends!"<br /><br />There's a picture here: http://www.saycheezphotobooth.com/?page_id=9<br /><br />hope that helps!very marriedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04281621170102704781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-25943824070357313432010-01-24T21:01:11.805-08:002010-01-24T21:01:11.805-08:00You sounds like a super chilled bride. $15 shoes -...You sounds like a super chilled bride. $15 shoes - awesome.<br /><br />My main drama was all to do with one bridesmaid. She didn't show up for my shower. Brought her sick baby to the hens night (which made two of the bridesmaids and me really sick three days before the wedding)(so not a kid friendly event either, don't know what she was thinking). Then on the day she got angry with me because I didn't have a list of all the photo locations written out for her husband to bring her baby along too (it was 43degrees C that day and all the locations we were going to use ended up not happening due to extreme heat, we just went where the photographer took us)(and why you would want to take a baby out in extreme heat is beyond me).<br /><br />Haven't spoken to her since the wedding. Feeling really horrible about it. We haven't been close for a while, I guess I just thought it might bring us back together. But instead it has pushed us further apart. <br /><br />All the other girls were great though. Really came through for me and were all round awesome. It has made our friendships stronger.<br /><br />Guess I should have just picked better to begin with. I really thought Mr B & I needed matching numbers. We really jumped into the decision way too early. Looking back I would have just not asked her.<br /><br />What can you do??Mrs Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03367631935043016430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-87555397298978736682010-01-24T18:13:15.800-08:002010-01-24T18:13:15.800-08:00and... i don't think you're asking too muc...and... i don't think you're asking too much either!redwhitebridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188994551748661706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-49000262606059534272010-01-24T18:12:38.560-08:002010-01-24T18:12:38.560-08:00honestly, i haven't asked too much of my BMs b...honestly, i haven't asked too much of my BMs but for wearing the attire i chose (and they like). one of our friends will do their makeup and hair. i heard that they are going to host my shower and bach party (it's secret stuff!). i haven't asked them to help with anything so far. i'll just ask their help with the flowers before rehearsal.redwhitebridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188994551748661706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-75532192623093512302010-01-24T16:26:08.837-08:002010-01-24T16:26:08.837-08:00i do not think you are asking too much, i do think...i do not think you are asking too much, i do think you are being very reasonable and relaxed, which is great for a bride. since my bmaids were all younger and not very wedding experienced, i only asked them for their support during the rehearsal and help during the actual day.honey my hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02060858692790978041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-26667135187648539302010-01-24T14:37:33.307-08:002010-01-24T14:37:33.307-08:00I don't think you are asking too much. I had t...I don't think you are asking too much. I had to fire my MOH because she sucked. She actually made my wedding more stressful then it needed to be. I wrote a blog post all about it and firing her was the best decision I ever made. I am so glad you haven't had any issues. I wish I didn't either, but people are right, weddings bring out the worse in people.Patiencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05389144705380750285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-55194543977382235912010-01-24T14:05:05.049-08:002010-01-24T14:05:05.049-08:00I don't think you're asking too much at al...I don't think you're asking too much at all :) I'm sure they feel honored to be asked to be apart of your special day and want to help wherever they can.Nicole-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764959533612146877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-20046806822214592802010-01-24T09:38:07.034-08:002010-01-24T09:38:07.034-08:00Haven't had any problems yet, but I haven'...Haven't had any problems yet, but I haven't asked my bridesmaids to do anything, so maybe that's why! I did ask them to buy a chocolate brown dress of their choosing, but as far as I know none of them have done it yet. I gave them March as a deadline, so there's still time.<br /><br />My MOH has been awesome and offered to help assemble the STDs. She is also throwing my shower, though it's going to be a tight squeeze since her little brother (my "little" cousin) is getting married two weeks before me . . . ummm, yeah, that was a surprise. Not too happy about it, but what can you do? I am refusing to bridezilla out on this one, though it's upsetting that they didn't think of me before setting their wedding date. Oh well. So, I haven't had any BM problems, just with the rest of my family, LOL.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04724896577355920828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-25276550586321456782010-01-24T06:56:18.553-08:002010-01-24T06:56:18.553-08:00I think you are being very respectful towards thei...I think you are being very respectful towards their situations and that's the way it should be. I think brides get too caught up in the ME ME ME and really it's for everyone to enjoy. I did see that contract that Pink Love Bird had, it's cute but my BF is a bit sensitive so she would get offended by it. <br /><br />I've been having a bit of a hard time with her up until yesterday. She is very self conscious and didn't want to try on dresses. So I finally got her to go yesterday and she did ok but wouldn't come out of the dressing room and was just making the consultant feel uncomfortable too. So I just let it go and at the end of the appointment I told her to be sure to get measured so she didn't have to come back. I knew she hadn't because the consultant told me she wouldn't let her measure her. So when I told my BF that, she said she was going to have to come back later. I was a bit short but blunt and just said you know you need to do it, just get it over with so you don't have to think or worry about it anymore, ok? And she eventually got measured at the end of it all, thank goodness! I think we all have to keep in mind other peoples personalities and be there to support each other. After all she is my BF!Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08153734187050593586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2783214501166327058.post-25130542787720456052010-01-24T06:36:01.168-08:002010-01-24T06:36:01.168-08:00I don't think you're expecting too much. I...I don't think you're expecting too much. It seems like you are being really respectful of what your bridesmaids want to wear (while still keeping with your vision) so they are comfortable. I think all girls who agree to be bridesmaids expect to be involved in some way in terms of planning and helping you get things together. So don't feel bad or guilty! You're doing a great job :o)GMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416137629786778346noreply@blogger.com