Our first dance was no exception. And being a huge fan of Dancing with the Stars and having Cheryl Burke's dance studio within 5-10 minutes of my home, I knew that personal dancing lessons and a choreographed dance was definitely in the plans for Mr Fix It and I. We didn't want to do the little "start off dancing slow and then act like the DJ screwed up and the song skips and switches to a fast one where all the guests are surprised as you bust a move to Salt n Pepa's Push It." As fun as that is, again, it's been done....it's a show called Rock the Reception on TLC.
Mr Fix It and I don't really have a special 'song,' so I browsed my ipod and came up with some fun ideas. And both Mr Fix It and I knew that we wanted to do some type of swing dance. So I also browsed YouTube and saved a few favorites of wedding couples who danced swing dances as their first dance...especially the ones who used the same song I wanted to.
I ran out and bought a fedora as a surprise for Mr Fix It. My plan was to have Mr Fix It standing in the center of the dance floor...the DJ would begin playing the song 'Fever' by Michael Buble and Mr Fix It would slowly snap his fingers to the opening beat. At that time, I would slink on out in my newly revealed reception dress and do the whole slow, sexy, seductive moves around Mr Fix It...you know, take the fedora off his head, put it on mine...eventually toss it off to someone in the crowd. Then Mr Fix It would dip me all sexy at one point after about the first minute of the song and on that beat, the DJ would switch to Michael Buble's song "Crazy Little Thing Called Love." So perfect for swing dancing! Seriously! Imagine some ideas like this:
Alas, it is not meant to be...with all that was going on this past month, Mr Fix It and I are just feeling emotionally and financially drained. And as much as we were looking forward to the dance lessons and entertaining our guests with a super fun first dance, Mr Fix It made the suggestion that 'it is just going to be a lot of stress to have to get to lessons once a week and then try to find the time to practice and perfect it over the next two and a half months' with everything else we have going on. And I have to agree...especially after looking at our calendar and all the appointments, parties, trips, house renovations, moving, etc that will be going on.
So I have been trying to talk myself into not being upset about having to let go of this little wedding dream of mine that I was so very excited about :( I really don't want to do the little 'sway' to a slow song type of first dance...however...I've read about lots of brides who said they loved that slow simple swaying first dance because the guests just seemed to fall out of sight and it was a wonderful quiet moment with their groom. So maybe it won't be that bad afterall if I change my perspective?
And now that we're changing it back to a more traditional first dance, I asked Mr Fix It what song we should dance to. He said he had a special surprise song that he had wanted to play for me at the wedding and didn't know how to fit it in. He said it should be okay for our first dance because it is a song that speaks to exactly how he feels about me. But he does not want me to know about it until the moment we take the dance floor.
Even being the ridiculously organized anal planner I am, I am actually really excited about this. Because one, it will give *ME* something to actually be surprised by and two, it will probably be really special and sweet and emotional for me to get to hear this song Mr Fix It is so adamant about me 'listening to every single word' of. Plus, I have already instructed my DJ's at our meeting last Friday to call Mr Fix It and confirm what the song is and I told them to tell him if they think it's 'danceable' for a slow song or if they can do something to it to be sure it is a slow or steady enough beat for us to move to.
Well, let's hear it...are there any aspects of your dreams for wedding day that you've had to (or did) let go of or change for any reason?
