Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Anonymous strikes again!

I'm still at the beginning of our honeymoon, but as I promised, I left some scheduled posts for all of you lovely ladies!

Over on one of the other sites that I am a featured blogger bride, I received an 'Anonymous' comment regarding my previous post about the 11th hour wedding guests and the B list that we had for our guest list.

So regarding my post, here is the comment that was left and my response:

Anonymous said...
I honestly think there is nothing tackier then a "B" list. You either wanted them at the wedding or you didn't.
April 14, 2010 9:38 AM

Born to be Mrs. Beever said...
I honestly think there is nothing tackier than people who don't respect people's budgets and size limitations. Wouldn't it be nice if I had the money to be able to invite the 400 people that I could have easily included and WANTED at my wedding? But unfortunately, some of us are not so fortunate as to have unlimited funds.

If it were up to me, I would have invited every person I've met since I was in grade school..because I am the type of loving person that includes anyone and everyone and *wants* them all there and celebrating with us. But that is just not realistic in today's economy and such.

The one thing I've learned in my life is to recognize and respect that everyone has their own abilities, opinions and ways of doing things. There is absolutely no reason at all to degrade, judge or name call just because you don't agree with something.

All you needed to say was "Personally, I don't think I'd ever be able to have a B list but I am glad it worked out for you."

But I guess you don't have that kind of 'tact,' especially coming from Anonymous commenters - lovely.

 
 
 
UGH!  Have you had any unfortunate comments or anonymous comments that left you frustrated and annoyed?  How did you handle it?

17 comments:

Patience said...

I just experienced this yesterday, although it wasn't from an anonymous commenter and she told me that some of my blog material was offensive, rude, and childish. People kill me.

buhdoop said...

Way ti take it in stride.

Heather Martin said...

WOW! How rude? Seriously that person has probably not had to plan a wedding before and if they did and had to pay for it themseleves they would understand. The nerve of some people!

SG said...

Just remember opinions are like assholes, everybody has one. Try not to let it get to you too much. Hope you're enjoying your honeymoon!

PartyPlannerGal said...

Oh, there goes anonymous again! She/he/it hasn't attacked me yet, but my day is probably coming. I just got invited to a wedding at the eleventh hour and couldn't be happier about it!

Ghenet said...

Ugh, I received one anonymous comment and posted my rebuttal on my blog. So annoying! But you handled it well and I completely agree with you.

penga said...

urgh, don't let anon get you down! if they aren't brave enough to put at least an internet name to themselves, they don't need to be heard anyway! bleah!

Bicoastal Bride said...

I agree with you completely, and feel that people should respect the fact that even if something doesn’t/wouldn’t work for them, that doesn’t mean it isn’t the right choice for others. “Anonymous” hasn’t found me yet, but I’m sure it’s only a matter of time!

Salt said...

Take THAT, anonymous! Gah I hate when people hide behind their computers like that. Great response!

Em said...

Oh the good ol anon commenter. Thankfully I haven't received any negative anon comments, but that doesn't mean I never will. I think you handled it really really well. Some people thing that they can just hide behind a computer screen and spew malicious commentary. Have some (excuse me) BALLS and leave a name. I'm sure we'd all respect them more.

Chocolate Lover said...

I don't get all these anon commenters. If you don't like what you are reading just scoot on over to the next post! Why even bother to write something! I've had a bunch of anon spam but no comments like that yet.

Sarah Ann said...

Oh I'm sorry you had to get one of those! I'm lucky because I haven't had any of those yet. People need to keep their opinions to themselves! I'll admit that there are blogs I read and there are sometimes when I can't help but think SERIOUSLY? Did you just say that? But the point is that it is THEIR blog to say whatever and do whatever they want on. And the best choice in my opinion is if you don't like something someone is doing to the point where you want to comment on it- then why are you reading that blog? I've stopped following blogs simply because I didn't end up liking what the person was saying- but they never need to know that. You know? I hope your honeymoon continues to go wonderfully and you don't get bombarded with this type of thing any more during it!

April Elizabeth said...

Good for you. Screw that person. They clearly havent gotten married or dont have a lot of friends and family.

I hated the idea of a B list but you know what? When your family is over 100 you have to exclude freinds unless you get nos there is a limited amount of money and seats and that limit may not match who you want there - particularly when there are between 2 to 12 people dictating who should be invited (you, spouse, parents, step parents, kids)

Cyn said...

what a rude comment to leave? I wouldn't worry about it, I think your B list was a good idea. I am oonly having 80 guests attend my wedding and I had a short B list. This Anonymous person probably isn't even involved in the budget aspect of planning a wedding thus doesn't understand.

Savoir Weddings said...

I deal with things like this by feeling sorry for the mean person. What does it say about him/her that they think saying something uneccesary and cruel is appropriate? Rise above it by knowing you are a better and kinder person x

wed in the white city said...

i truly wonder if that anonymous commenter has ever planned a wedding. i fully disagree w this comment and it actually kind of makes me mad. of COURSE you are going to put your guest list in priority order. Family, Close friends, Distant family, etc.

it is totally normal and natural to have an must have guest list and a nice to have guest list. there are so many reasons why - venue capacity, venue minimum requirements, evolving budget/life circumstances etc. that there is NO possible way you can predict all of these and have a hard and fast guest list.

there was one wedding i went to where i clearly knew i was on the B list! and i did NOT care - i was happy to be there with them regardless and she is still my friend.

Mrs T said...

I have been lucky so far. But I know that when someone leaves a nasty comment - as much as I should just ignore or delete it - I will probably get upset.

Don't let it get you down. I heart your blog!

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