We are both perfectionists and though I am a little more humble in realizing that I don't 'know it all,' Mr Fix It believes he is a contractor, electrician, plumber, lawyer, doctor, mechanic, teacher, gardener, etc. Now granted, he does in fact know a lot about a lot of those things, but he definitely can't do it all. Though he'd like to think he could.
Anyway, our personalities once again flared up during our ceremony when it came time to partake in the Unity Cross. I wanted to incorporate something that we could keep as a memorable item to display in our home from our ceremony. A lot of people will participate in the lighting of a unity candle or in a sand pouring ceremony and then keep the vase in their home. I wasn't super excited about either of those ideas. So I was super thrilled when I found the Unity Cross on the GetMarried.com web site.
It's not cheap at $99 but my small group of girls that I lead in a bible study asked if there was anything special they could all pitch in to get me for my shower and I instantly thought of this cross. So it not only was a great keepsake from our ceremony, but it also was a special gift from some very important friends in my life.
Basically, the cross is put together by the bride and groom during the ceremony to represent the uniting of the two different beings (man and woman) on the foundation of our faith.
I loved the symbolism of this. Although I wish the pastor would have spent a little more time and thought on how he explained this to our guests as part of the ceremony. It comes with a great little story about how the man's cross is strong and sturdy and yet somewhat empty inside. And the woman's cross is intricate, beautiful and perfectly suited to fill the man's cross. But instead he described the woman's cross as 'curvy'. Really? Whatever, Pastor Lyle is awesome at rolling with it and I love how he made everyone laugh with his comment about me breaking a nail. It was still a cool idea. However, when it came time to put together the cross, well, let's just say that I commented to Mr Fix It that we probably should have practiced putting it together before the actual ceremony which we in fact, did *NOT* do as you'll see in the clip:
Did you listen carefully to how Mr Fix It and I make a perverted comment about 'finding the hole?' Yeah, not one of my finer moments...I was obviously nervous. :)
Starts off great working together.
Mr Fix It is having some problems.
And I try to take over...unsuccessfully.
Share time: Did you have any little mishaps that occurred during your wedding?
TODAY'S WEDDING TIP: While it's not necessary to practice every single thing that you will be doing at your ceremony or reception, it is a good idea to at least talk about how you'll do certain things. We should have definitely practiced putting together the cross before the ceremony. And though you can't do that with a sand pouring, you can at least remind each other that you want to pour the sand slowly so it mixes together well. My sister and her hubby didn't do this and she poured her sand into the vase super fast while her groom took his time. It didn't merge quite as well as they wanted though it was a funny story. Remember to try on your rings before the big day to make sure they fit okay.
Unless otherwise noted, all photos by Robert Mullins Photography
Raw video footage courtesy of Video Keepsakes of Beverly Hills