Saturday, February 20, 2010

Can I just have a minute, please?!?

I talk often about my sister's wedding just over 3 years ago.  It was such a fun and special day.  We had a great wedding party that kept us laughing from the rehearsal all the way to the after party at a local bar. 

And our photographer...well, he just took the gorgeous wedding party and made them look even better!  :)

However, as my sister's MOH, it was also really chaotic acting as a day of coordinator for her.  I feel like I either missed out on a lot of the fun and special things or I was rushing through them to make sure the next thing was taken care of. 

She got married on Labor Day weekend in San Clemente, CA  and the traffic was horrendous!  The ceremony started an hour late because we were waiting for lots of guests to arrive.  On top of that, it was an extremely hot summer day and the wedding was outside on the lawn at a golf course/club. 

While my sister was tucked away in the wine room with the rest of the maids, I was out wandering around organizing the photog, videog, and DJ. 

I also had to get about 5 guys lined up in golf carts and instruct them as to how they were to drive the maids down to the ceremony one by one. 

I had my father and the florist waiting for my sister's arrival so that once they started their walk down the aisle, the florist could straighten out her train for was a *LONG* walk along the grass.

It was finally time for the ceremony to start...everyone was seated.  The beach balls she had left for the guests to throw around while they waited for the ceremony had all been collected.

As I approved that the golf carts were lined up and everyone was in their place, I ran back to the wine room to grab the bride and her maids.  The photog and videog were already down by the ceremony site so it was just us 5 ladies in the wine room at this point.  And as I entered, I could feel myself running in my heels and dress.  So I sat in this chair next to my sister, took a deep breath and said "Can I just stop for a minute?" 

I looked around at the girls and we were all pretty anxious about what was about to take place.  So I just said, "Can we just pray together real quick?"  And we all sat in a circle, holding hands, loving on my sister and I just said this prayer.  I don't remember what I said but I know I thanked God for these amazingly beautiful and fun ladies who were such a special part of this journey and I know I prayed for my sister and her soon-to-be-husband to have a blessed day and a God-centered marriage.  And then I prayed that God would help us all just slow down and take in every moment...enjoying it, not rushing through and not taking it for granted.

When I finished, I looked up and the girls said "Thanks for making us cry right before we're about to walk down the aisle!"  We then all laughed and tried to blot away tears and check our makeup and then we were out the door and off to the ceremony!

I was kind of bummed later that our photographer wasn't there to capture the moment because I've seen some friends do this at their own weddings now since I always tell them to stop and take a moment just before the ceremony to pray and soak it all in and just *BE*.  But even though we didn't get any pretty shots like this:

It was kind of nice to just have it be an intimate quiet thing with just us girls. 

The best advice I can give to you ladies as you get ready for your big day is to not rush anything!  The photog is yelling at you that you need to cut the cake?  The DJ is telling you that you just must line up immediately for the grand entrance or the coordinator is screaming that the guests have been waiting for 30 minutes for the ceremony to start?  Who cares?  They can't do anything without you!  You're the bride. 

So take a moment to just be *IN* the moment.  If you feel so led, ask someone to pray for you and your hubby or whatever.  Or just stand together with your loved ones holding hands in silence and taking long, slow breaths.  Whatever it is, just that moment, right before you find yourself walking down that aisle and all the chaos begins, just stop and remember this moment....for you'll never get it back again :)

*  Praying photo courtesy of Melody Flannery.  Unless otherwise indicated, all photos taken by Eric Cotter of Jim Kennedy Photography


JEM - Aqua Bride said...

Awww, this is such a great post. I totally understand what you're saying because I also was the MOH/ Coordinator for my sister's wedding and I was bushed. I mean totally wiped out, I was so stressed. I swear for my wedding I don't want anyone to feel that way so that's why i'm making the sacrifice and hiring a Day of Coordinator.

PartyPlannerGal said...

This is a beautiful post - sounds like you did a great job acting as DOC for your sister's wedding!

Bicoastal Bride said...

Great advice! I will definitely keep it in mind on the wedding day. :) I think it’s wonderful that you were the DOC for your sister, but I’m also glad you got to stop for a minute and share such a special moment. Being “in the moment” is really so important.

New Mexican Bride said...

I agree completely! I am more of a go with the flow type of girl so I will definitely try to enjoy every moment and not be rushed for everything!

Mrs T said...

Great words of wisdom. Love those shots from your sisters wedding. And that last shot of the bride with all the hands on her - what a lovely moment.

Amy said...

I love the prayer shots. Such a beautiful moment between a bride, her 'maids and God!

Bee @ BP Wedding said...

WOW Stacey, you are the be-all, do-all woman! Your sister was very lucky to have you as her MOH/DOC for her wedding. You ladies look so beautiful and happy in those pics at the top! :) I also love those prayer shots. What a great thing to capture!

Vera D. said...

Great post -- you are so right. I'm helping a bride put together her timeline and vendors are asking for this and that. It's the bride's day! Let her have her moments. :) Great beach ball photos too...

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