Monday, February 8, 2010

Why I'm Not a Wedding Planner

So the lovely Mrs T over at 99 + Forever has mentioned a couple times in her comments on my blog that I should be a wedding planner.  Isn't she just the loveliest friend?  I seriously think you should check out her blog if you are not already a follower...she has some great honest blogs about the not so perfect things that can happen during wedding planning and yet has such a tremendously positive outlook and perspective on love and marriage.

Anyway, as much as I appreciate the lovely comments, there is absolutely no way I would ever want to be a wedding planner/coordinator.  Funny thing is, I actually did consider it at one time...even had business cards made up for my company named 'Creativity in Consulting' and placed some small ads online.  But alas, I realized, the planning industry was not for me.

Don't get me wrong, I have all the skills and passions required to be a coordinator:

*  Love, love, love talking all things weddings
*  Love love itself :)
*  Have had a blast assisting friends and my baby sister planning their own wedding
*  Have mad (scary, anal, control freak type) skills when it comes to scheduling, organizing, planning, multi-tasking, etc.
*  Have total leadership (read: bossy) qualities to take control of situations and direct (read: order) people around in order to move things along

All great traits and definitely things I looked for when looking for my own day of coordinator.  However, as I started to set up my own coordinating business, the following things came to mind:

*  You will most likely be working many major holidays and most weekends of the year (if not every weekend during the summer)
*  You are in an extremely competitive and highly flooded industry in which coordinators (and other vendors like photogs, florists, DJs) all come a dime a dozen and can be found on any venue street corner
*  You end up having to take all the stress and pressure of ensuring a couple's big day is the absolute best it can be and if anything goes wrong, it's likely your fault, or at the very least will be attributed to you
*  You have to deal with a Bridezilla every once in a while and even worse, a Vendorzilla more often than not

And that's it...those were the 4 main things that made me realize it really wasn't what I wanted to do least not as a single mom back about 9 or 10 years ago when I was considering it :)  So there you have it...

My hat goes off to any woman (or man) who truly finds his/her calling in the coordinating business.  I personally absolutely love my DOC, Amanda and am totally looking forward to working with her in just about 2 months!

So, any of you ladies ever considered taking your planning skills to the next level and doing this professionally?


Anonymous said...

Honestly, I contemplated taking some classes and becoming certified to be a wedding planner, but I don't think I could put up with the bridezillas! I love planning my own and would be happy to help friends, but I don't think I could make a career out of it!

Em said...

I've thought the same thing about your while reading this blog. You really would be wonderful at planning.

While I'm currently unemployed, my goal for my career is to get into event planning. Not necessarily wedding planning, although if I get a job at a hotel there would be an element of wedding coordinating, I'm sure. I got interested in event planning a few years ago during my senior year of college. After I volunteered at my first event, I was hooked! Planning my wedding has only solidified my desire to plan events for a living.

Bee @ BP Wedding said...

Wedding planning is so much fun. But I agree with you... I would not be able to put up with the bridezillas either!! Nor would I want to spend every major holiday working. Kudos to all the awesome event planners that do this for a living!

PartyPlannerGal said...

Hmmm, I've thought about it, but it would be hard to walk away from my law degree after all the time/money/effort I put into it. Once my friend is done with her MBA program, we have discussed party planning on the side. Don't know if I'd ever go full-time with it, though. And I might avoid planning other peoples' weddings for the reasons you stated.

Bicoastal Bride said...

It’s so funny you posted this, because I was just putting together a post of my own that touches on this topic! I’ve thought about it a lot, since I think I also have the skills needed to be successful. Plus, planning weddings would be a great opportunity for someone like me who loves to organize and focus on details, but also loves to be creative, which is something I somewhat lack in my current job. I’ve looked at training programs and am definitely keeping it on my radar for the future.

very married said...

i totally have! my husband wants me to pursue it but i'm not so sure... i'm going to give this law thing a try first :)

Patience said...

Wedding planning just isn't my thing. While I have enjoyed planning my own wedding, all of the stress that goes along with it would set me over the edge. I couldn't deal with that every single day of my life. I admire those that can. It is a lot of work and just not something I would ever want to do.

Chocolate Lover said...

I'm with you. Planning my wedding has been great, but I've been able to work at my pace with my own tastes. I doubt I would be patient enough with someone elses. Oh well...

Ruthy G. said...

Hell to the NO! I can barely handle the details of my own wedding and I'm laid back. I've been a bridesmaid in so many weddings and I've found most brides tend to be pretty high strung...way too much stress!

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Thought about it too, but no way. Too much potential stress and craziness! I couldn't deal with all the zilla types you mentioned (sigh snotty vendorzillas, no thanks!)

Morgan said...

Those are really good pros and cons. Even with the drawbacks though, I would LOVE to be a wedding planner...but probably wouldn't quit my "day job" to do it.

Mrs T said...

Thanks for the blog love! You know I adore you too. Maybe you should just offer your killer bridesmaid services!

I totally feel you on the working weekends thing. Never thought about it.

Still think you'd be great at it!

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