Let me preface this by saying, I again, am so sorry for not having been around the blogosphere enough to visit all my fellow bloggers' sites and post comments. I truly enjoy reading them all but this past month or two has been so crazy at work and things are really gearing up with the wedding just over two months away now! That said, I have caught back up at work to be able to catch up on all of your lovely sites so thanks for your patience in sticking it out with me and not fully abandoning my place of 'thoughts.' :)
So it happened again last night: We were out to dinner with my mom, daughter, her dad, his mom and his sister celebrating Little Miss's birthday. And then my daughter's Aunt asked Mr Fix It if he is getting excited about the wedding. And you know what his response was? "Well, I've already been through this before. So I'm really only doing this for her. I would have been totally happy just going to Vegas to get married."
So here is my open letter to Mr Fix It (which I guess doesn't really make it an open letter?) :D
Dear Mr Fix It:
Can I just start off by saying UGH! ??? I get it...you've been married twice before. And you would have preferred to have saved the thousands of dollars this wedding is costing us (read: ME) to put towards a house (which would be a second house, since you already have one!). I get that you think I'm being anal, and obsessive and 'a freak' about all the details and things I would like to have at our wedding to celebrate our love and shower our guests with.
I get that you think our wedding colors look like the 4th of July theme. I understand you think it is silly to have things like lighted luminary table numbers with pictures of us in them and you're getting flack from your lame fellow surfer friends and brothers because I put stamps on the invitations that had our picture on them. I have totally come to terms with the fact that you will never sit down to help me stuff favor boxes, wrap bows, or assemble invitations. I could barely drag your ass to register for gifts that would benefit you!
I fully understand that you have had a sucky, unexpected year financially, physically and emotionally. So I have not once made any comments about the fact that you want to 'wing it' on our honeymoon and not book any hotels for our two week stay in Brisbane, Australia and Bali, Indonesia. And I don't expect to be surprised by any high end five star resort type stay when we get there either. Not that I am complaining...I am fully amenable to your idea of letting the wind lead us to adventure and trusting that as my new husband, you will definitely find a way to provide a room for me to lay my head down on a pillow that won't be infested with mosquitoes or cockroaches the size of the neighbor's kitten!
I gave in to the fact that we had to switch our tuxes for the fathers and ring bearers to older versions than the groomsmen will wear to try to cut down on the costs that *your* family and friends were griping about! Nevermind the fact that I already gave up our house to them so they have somewhere to sleep on *OUR* wedding night.
I am thrilled to death when you (on rare occasions) make mention of something or some idea you actually *like* that I have come up with for our wedding. Unlike you, who constantly tells me that your friends or family think I am going overboard on our wedding (which is funny since your sister and sister-in-laws have told me how excited they are for the big day and how amazing they know it'll be), *MY* friends and family consistently send me e-mails, texts, phone messages, etc telling me that they are so excited to share in our big day and know it will be amazing.
So could you please do me a favor the next time someone asks if you are getting excited for the big day and just fake it?!? Just tell them yes, we can't wait. Just appease me to show that you have some sense of the joy, love, emotion and memories that I am envisioning will kick off the rest of our amazing lives together. And that while trivial and unnecessary, the details and ideas and vendors that I am planning and booking all help bring together our family and friends in a once in a lifetime event that I personally have been waiting 37 freaking years to plan and participate in!
So would it kill you to pretend like you don't think this is all a complete waste of time and money? Thanks so much. I love you.
Born to be Mrs. Beever
PS I should say that I really wasn't all that upset when he made the comment last night. I just said to him and my daughter's Aunt that 'even though he has been through this before, he's never been through it with me nor has he ever done it the amazing way that we are planning on doing it.' To which he of course agreed and said he knows that the guests are going to totally enjoy it and that it will be a great day. Now, why couldn't he have led with that?
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