Tuesday, February 16, 2010

The relationship timeline

In 10 days, Mr Fix It and I will have been together for 6 years!  And in just about 60 days it will be our wedding day!  So I thought it'd be fun to share a quick rundown on the timeline of me and Mr Fix It's relationship:

*  Feb 19, 2004:  Mr Fix It sends me an e-mail via match.com.  Being the computer addict that I am, I of course respond immediately.
*  Feb 20, 2004:  Mr Fix It is *NOT* a computer addict and hates them...thus he instructs me to call him or there will be no further communication.  :)
*  Feb 26, 2004:  After having talked on the phone several days in that first week, we meet up for our first date at the Cheesecake Factory at the Irvine Spectrum.  We have a great conversation and walk around the shops and Mr Fix It has no problem showing his affection by wrapping his arm around my waist.  Though I was not used to this kind of 'forward' behavior on a first date, I felt oddly attracted to him and the night did end with a little smooching. 
*  August, 2004:  For the past 6 months, Mr Fix It has still gone on a few more 'first dates' from some online women he met but was up front and honest with me about the fact that we were only 'dating' during that time.  I was okay with it...patience is a virtue.  But now, he has told me that he is done with dating and I am officially his girlfriend (smiles all around!).

*  Spring, 2006:  For whatever reason, Mr Fix It and I are both feeling unfulfilled in our relationship.  Though we have no major problems or issues between us, we discuss this and decide it is best to part ways.  However, we do remain in touch via phone calls over the next year.
*  Sep 2, 2006:  Mr Fix It attends my sister's wedding and though we are 'just friends' he sits at the main table with my family. 
*  March, 2007:  Mr Fix It and I are now in more regular communication and even hang out once in a while.  After close to a year apart as official boyfriend/girlfriend, we casually decide to start dating again.
*  April, 2007:  I am suddenly more in love with Mr Fix It than I had ever felt in our previous 2 year relationship.  Being apart for a year has made both of us realize that we just needed some time apart and perspective to see what we really appreciated about the other.  Our relationship is now full force back on and better than it had ever been in the past.
*  Spring, 2007:  I can't help but often tell Mr Fix It how much "I love him."  In fact, I say "I love you" to him often.  His reciprocation is sweet but never with those words.
*  Oct, 2008:  Mr Fix It takes me to Cabo San Lucas for my birthday.  We have the most amazing time in an incredible suite at a phenomenal resort.  Our first night there we sit at a table in a dark restaurant and Mr Fix It tells me that he does not want me running around telling everyone I told him this, but "he can totally envision spending the rest of his life with me."  (swoon)
*  Oct, 2008:  While still in Cabo 2 days later, Mr Fix It and I take a walk on a beautiful sandy white beach.  It seems there is not one other person anywhere in sight and we walk for miles.  On the way back down the shore, he takes my hand and says "I know you have waited for almost five years to hear this, but I really do love you."  (melting)
*  Nov, 2008:  After returning from Cabo, Mr Fix It now tells me almost every time he calls me how much he loves me.  While laying on the sofa together watching tv one night, he casually says "I guess maybe we should start looking at some wedding venues."  I smile quietly and say "That sounds good."  (trying not to burst with psycho-future-bride fanatacism and overwhelming plans galore.)
*  Mid-Nov, 2008:  We begin looking at some wedding venues.  The family begins to ask why we're looking at venues when we're not engaged.  Shhh!  Don't say anything, is what I'm thinking in my head.
*  Dec, 2008:  Mr Fix It takes me to Los Angeles' jewelry district to look at some engagement/wedding rings.  (is this really happening?)
*  Christmas Day, 2008:  Mr Fix It proposes!  Woo-hoo!  Hallelujah!  It's finally happened...seriously, someone pinch me! 

Stay tuned for tomorrow's post which will explain what I know you are all thinking:  Why the heck did she stay with a man who took five freaking years to tell her he loves her?!?


Patience said...

Adorable and well worth the wait.

PartyPlannerGal said...

Yay! I love this story, and you two look so adorable together. I don't think it's so odd that you stayed with someone who took 5 years to say "I love you." My good friend is married to a man who has never told her that he loves her. He's just not like that. My fiance will say it, but only if I say it first or if we are getting off the phone :)

Em said...

Oh my gosh! You and Mr. Fix It met on my birthday! I'll be sure to toast to you two on Friday :) And I'm really looking forward to the next part of this story...I'll be sure to tune in tomorrow (or whenever you post it).

All you need is love... said...

LOL! I was really going to comment about the whole waiting 5 years thing, until your last sentence!
I was going to say, that must be true love waiting around for him to be ready! I have been with my boo for 4.5 years, and Im going crazy waiting for a proposal!!

Rhonda said...

Stacey, over on blogger brides, I am rhondajoel... and you have commented over time the similarities we've had... including the same wedding weekend. Well, now oddly enough I can say that we share the same 1st date (Feb 26) anniversary, but mine was in 2008. :-)

SG said...

I give you credit, I don't know if I could have dated someone for 5 years without hearing I love you. I dated someone for 9 months before finally just asking "Do you love me?" hahaha But obviously it was well worth the wait for you :)

Kristian told me after about 2 months of dating that he loved me and I responded "No you don't" haha poor guy. I totally ruined the moment.

Anonymous said...

6 years!? Wow! That's awesome! Congratulations!

very married said...

my husband and i were together for 6 years too! (minus a short 3 month break...)

Bicoastal Bride said...

Congrats on six years together! I love this timeline post. :)

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Awww - it definitely pays to wait! I had a few friends that also started planning before the actual proposal. If you know, you know and time to book the venue right?

Mrs T said...

Love that shot of you two at the beach.

You are super patient! Can't believe the man made you work for it. You're a great catch - he's lucky you didn't get snapped up by someone else!

Mrs T said...

Seriously girl - If I could get my self to the US and gatecrash your wedding I would be there - with bells on. You would be all 'I wasn't really serious crazy lady'. Ha!

Let's hope that all of the bad wedding mojo got used up on my crazy day and yours is wonderfully smooth.

buhdoop said...

Girlie, you are so pretty. That photo on the beach belongs in a magazine.

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