April 16th will be the day I marry my best friend...the day I walk down the aisle at our wedding and pledge my love and faithfulness to Mr Fix It in front of 200 of our friends and family. I will (hopefully) look beautiful in my gown and he will look hot in his tux. There will be lots of laughter at the cool video that just played before I made my entrance and then lots of hugs and well wishes as we basque in the glory of the cocktail hour with our guests. We'll make a grand entrance into the reception and eat some yummy food and then dance the night away. That night, we'll sleep in the nearby hotel room we booked...just the two of us. And then the next day, I'll move into Mr Fix It's home which will officially be 'our home.' (I'll have actually already moved all my stuff in during the weeks before the wedding but won't stay there til after the wedding.)
And this new home of ours? Well, Mr Fix It has lived there for about 13 years now I think. You see he bought it with his ex-wife. And up until she cheated on him and then left him, it was 'their' house. Then it was his house. Soon it will be our (my) house. Is that weird? I will be moving into the house that my husband shared with his ex-wife. And the neighbors? They all knew her. It's a pretty close neighborhood. Mr Fix It is good friends with all of his neighbors...except the one directly to the left of us. She was very good friends with Mr Fix It's ex-wife and he thinks she played a big role in pushing her away from him before they divorced. So he doesn't like her much...she has caused some problems in the neighborhood. When I see her, I just walk by and don't say anything (out of respect for Mr Fix It)...but all the other neighbors? They love me and come up and chat with me and they'll all be at our wedding...except for the ones to the left of us.
Bummer is, every once in a great while, we see Mr Fix It's ex-wife's Hummer parked in front of the neighbors house visiting that old friend of hers. I've never personally seen or met her...never. Mr Fix It says that his brother's wife (his sister-in-law) apparently even stays in touch with her and catches up every once in a while. Though Mr Fix It has asked his brother to tell his wife not to ever bring her up to us.
Even though they do not talk, see each other or have any real common friends or what not anymore, her 'presence' is still sort of around every once in a great while. So is it weird that I am moving into what used to be her house? The house my (soon to be) husband once shared with his ex?
Not to me, it's not. Honestly, I never even think about her. I don't ever have thoughts creep into my mind about what they did or didn't do in a certain part of the house or whatever. Mr Fix It has been working on changing up the house before I move in...he's totally remodeled the master bathroom so nothing about that is like it was before. He's painted most of the rooms and is putting in new flooring. I'll be moving some of my furniture into the house. I'll definitely be filling his bare bachelor walls with my pictures, paintings, candles, crosses, etc. So I will be making it 'our' home. I never even think about my man's past or the women he left behind in it.
What about you? Do you have any fears, doubts, or reminders of your partner's ex-es? Does it bother you?
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