Well, here we are...it's December 29th. Just two more days and 2009 will be a thing of the past and 2010 will be here and on it's way. These past few days (weeks?) I've felt kind of stuck. I'm not quite sure why. It's a strange place to be in a long engagement. We got engaged a year ago on Christmas Day but had actually started looking at wedding venues in early November, 2008. So I've been planning for over a year now. But now there's just about 3 1/2 months to go. You'd think I would feel like things are in full speed ahead mode. But the reality is, I don't feel like there's much to do.
Don't get me wrong. I am meeting with my caterer and coordinator in about 2 1/2 weeks to do a venue walk through and come up with a logistics plan and finalize how everything will be set up and run. And I'm meeting with my seamstress at some point soon to get started on gown alterations. I have contacted several dance companies yesterday to find a studio for Mr Fix It and I to begin taking dance lessons this month. I'm also scheduling about 3 to 4 appointments with my aesthetician for waxing (legs, bikini area, etc) starting this month up until the big day. Within the next couple weeks our invitations should arrive so that I can begin assembling them all as I am hoping to get them out around February 1st. So it's not like January is not without it's list of to-do's that I am ready to take on.
But for some reason I feel like I'm in the 'inbetween' phase of wedding planning. I have *so* much done and planned, that until the invites go out and we start receiving RSVP's and until we pick out the final menu and get a bit closer, I just feel like I'm kind of stuck sitting around waiting for time to pass. I can't create seating charts, or escort cards, or assemble favors and such until we are in the final month (if not weeks). Other people would think I'm crazy, especially when you look at the things I've got going on in January as mentioned above. But for some reason, I'm feeling in limbo.
Does anyone else feel this way? Am I just going through some kind of 'downward' excitement or planning mode since I have been sick and there has been so much other stuff going on with the holidays? It's kind of strange and unlike me. But oh well...guess I'll just chalk it up to a 'season' of the engagement. :)
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I have been like that for the past 6 months. We booked all the big stuff right away, then there was a long lull, now we need to do save the dates, choose a florist and baker, go to our tasting and start some diy projects. We went from havign nothing to do, to havign a lot to do.
Sorry you're feeling that way... be glad you have a lot of things taken care of! Less stress :) Enjoy these last few stages in the planning process and take it all in! :)
I think it's just your mind and body telling you to take a little break. So spend some time with an old "before the engagement" interest. Refresh!
I feel the same. We still have a ton left to do, but I am seriously lacking motivation. January is my least favorite month of the year, so I'm in a ho-hum mood right now. Boo.
I was just thinking about this last night. Most of the big stuff is planned except the DJ and the cake (still working on those) but other than that I have a bunch of DIY stuff to do but I feel like it's still too soon to really start that stuff. It's like the calm before the storm.
I think the fact that you’ve been sick may have a lot to do with it. When I’m sick, I definitely start feeling unmotivated. But I also think that since you’ve been so organized with your planning and really have everything under control, you may not experience the usual hurried rush that comes at this stage.
I can relate, since these past couple weeks, I’ve really locked down so many aspects of the wedding and feel like most of the “brainstorming” phase is coming to an end. From this point, it will be more a matter of double checking on things and making sure the logistics are still in place. I love doing those things too, but it’s definitely the beginning of a very different planning phase.
i feel the same exact way. i have five months to go, but i got all the big stuff done early, so now i feel like i've got nothing to do in terms of wedding planning. everyone keeps saying, "you must be so busy, with work and the wedding, etc." and i'm like, "i'm busy with work, but what should i be doing wedding-wise?"
i think all the above commenters are right...bicoastal had a point about being sick. i've been sick for much of the last month and that left me unmotivated.
but either way, my best friend got married in october, and she said the lull is normal. she said enjoy it, because it will get crazy the last month! great blog, by the way.
You should enjoy this free time. Planning a wedding is so stressful, it's good to have a break amongst all of this. You're at the tail end and the next couple of months will go by so fast. Before you know it it will be the big day so just relax a bit :)
I'm feelin that way right about now. I'm just ready for it to be done!!!!!!!!!!! I hate having a more than a year engagement... if I could re-do it I wouldn't have gone this long!
-kjpugs
girly, I WISH I felt that way. I think you are just were you need to be. It is kind of like the calm before the storm.
WOW you have a ton done already. That's great! It means less stress later. I wish I had more motivation to get moving on some of my many projects. I love working on wedding stuff, but I always have this annoying problem... sometimes in the middle of one project, I get bored and want to move on to the next already so I never completely finish. I think its great that you don't really have anything to fuss about at the moment. Take this time to relax and enjoy the quiet because stressful times are a-comin! I'm not looking forward to the last few months of the wedding, or "crunch-time" as my fiance calls it. I still have so much to do, and so little time!
I'm in the same boat. I just sent off the STD's and there's still 10 months left -- a lot of time! In the meantime, it doesn't help that I keep seeing all sorts of cool ideas that it just muddles my big picture vision of the theme and details. I wish I could do them all -- the bunting, the pom-poms, flowers, book table numbers, thumbprint guest trees, wish trees, etc. The list goes on and on. To top it off, I went to Target today and got so many cool things at 75% off, that I've got more stuff to deal with. :) Oy vey.
I totally feel this way so I understand!
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