Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Truly recognizing ceremony traditions

I was reading A Chocolate Lover's Confessions a while ago about her research for her Greek-Orthodox wedding ceremony and it reminded me about something I had considered for my own ceremony.  I love when people try to truly incorporate the history, traditions and meaningful aspects of their family lineage or faith into their ceremonies.  I believe it shows respect and recognition of where you come from and the symbolism that goes along with the personal love two people share when uniting as one.  As a Christian, I have studied a lot about Biblical times and stories especially in the time of Jesus.  I remember studying once about the history of Jewish ceremonies during that time and being so enamored with the beauty of the relationships and preparations of the Bride and Groom.

You can read a lot of the specific details of the First Century Jewish Wedding Ceremonies by clicking here

What I love about this tradition is that the Groom went away to 'prepare a place' for he and his bride during their 'engagement' period.  There was no set wedding date but it typically took about a year for the groom to build a home for them.  When the home was ready, and he had his father's permission, he would set out to retrieve his bride.  The people of the city would know that it was time by the torches and cries of the people shouting "The bridegroom is coming!"  It typically happened at night.  And once the bride heard of this, she would immediately put on her wedding dress and prepare herself for his arrival.  When the groom arrived at her home, she would come out and they would walk through the streets of the city with all of the people surrounding them until they arrived at their new home.  They would then enter for the marriage ceremony and to consecrate the marriage.  They stayed in the house for 7 days while the people of the city celebrated the marriage during that entire week!  Can you imagine your wedding celebration lasting 7 days?!

At the end of that period, they would come out and join in the marriage feast with all of their guests.  What a joyous and seriously extravagant celebration this must have been!  I just love how the groom comes for his bride.  It's as if he is telling her, I want you and I will come for you no matter where you are and I am ready to love you forever and lead you as your husband.

I wanted to recognize this beautiful tradition by doing something a little out of the ordinary at my own ceremony.  Though I am not sure if I will actually incorporate it, my thought is to have my father walk me across the bridge that leads out to the outdoor teatro where the guests are all seated for the ceremony:

Then when we get to the end of the aisle, my groom would walk down the aisle and 'retrieve' me from my father and lead me up to the altar.  I just love the symbolism of what this represents in the faith of my past and the future that I believe is waiting for us for eternity.  It would definitely make our ceremony unique and such, but would it seem awkward or funny to people?  I would definitely incorporate it into the schedule of the ceremony on the program with a very brief explanation.

What do you think of this idea?  And do you have any thoughts of how to incorporate your own lineage, traditions or rituals from your faith into your weddings?

Photo credit: personal photo


Kim said...

First, your wedding ceremony spot is gorgeous! Love it!

Second, I love the idea of your fiance walking down the aisle to lead you down!! Such a unique idea and I think guests would totally "get it" and love it!!

PartyPlannerGal said...

I love the idea of this! And as long as you put a note in your program, everyone will get it. This is such a great idea!

thehickbride said...

I absolutely love this! As we're both Christians as well, I totally get why this would be of such significance! I really love the idea!

Chocolate Lover said...

You just reminded me to repost that :)
You already know that I think its a beautiful idea! give some background/explanation for it and people will love it. It’s unique and something for your guests to talk about - in a good way.

Bicoastal Bride said...

I think it’s a very unique idea and something everyone would definitely be able to understand, even if they don’t know the whole back story. I think the two of you walking down the aisle together also symbolizes the partnership that already exists between you, even before you are married.

We’re still trying to work out our processional and music choices based on the traditions of the Catholic Church. We’re also hoping to include Irish blessings as part of the ceremony to honor our heritage.

Morgan said...

What a sweet idea! I love it!

Jen said...

A very sweet idea!
I love that your sister did the beach balls for her wedding too! I thought it was so fun :)

Pug(s) and Bugg said...

I love that idea!!!!!!!!

Also, thanks for the sweet comments!!!! So glad to be a Weddzilla blogger with you and to add you to my RSS! :)


Miss T said...

I think that sounds awesome. DO IT!

New Mexican Bride said...

OH I LOVE THIS IDEA!!!! The old tradition sounds so romantic!!!! I think you should do it if you can, it would be amazing!!

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