Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Can't you just do one thing for the wedding?!?

Well, here we are...just 23 days away from our wedding day.  Holy smokes!

I have been busy for sure and am so bummed I have not been able to comment on many of my fellow blogs I follow.  I have noticed that comments here on my own blog have been dwindling due to my lack of visiting other blogs :(  Please bare with me...it has just been crazy busy.

The good news is, that my house is almost completely packed up.  We are moving the furniture on Saturday.  I've applied for our marriage license online so we will pick that up in a week or so.  My programs are being shipped to me right now so I can assemble them (post coming tomorrow).  I finally got the pictures from my bridal shower (post coming next Tuesday).  I will be putting together escort cards in the next week or two.  I got me and Mr Fix It's Australian visas.  I am in the midst of final planning meetings and picking out our menu tonight.  Things are definitely getting done.

Overall, I've been feeling goodNot anxious, not stressed, not feeling dizzy or sick.  But now things are getting all drama again.  My mom is seriously losing it.  She lets every little thing get to her.  Understandable since she is working like crazy and also in the middle of a move (she's moving back into the condo I am about to move out of).  And of course her mother (my grandma) is dying and continues to go down hill each week.  At this rate, we are fearful that she may pass the week of our wedding.  Please pray that does not happen. 

And this past week, my daughter had a melt down over having to move 25 minutes away.  It is a long story but basically, her dad lives about 10-15 minutes from us and he has her a few days out of each week.  So on the days she is with dad (2 during school week), he drives her to school which is near our current house.  Well, I told her that she won't have to switch schools once we move into Mr Fix It's place...we'll just make the 25 minute drive to school each morning on the 2 or 3 days she is with me.  Not a big deal really.  But she thinks it's the end of the world and she is going to be 'isolated' from her friends.  Granted, she will have her license in a year and I am sure will have a car to drive herself around.  But it all came out yesterday and she and I got in a big fight about it.  My fear is she is going to go running to her father wanting to move in with him and I will be devastated.  Not what I want to be dealing with 3 weeks before our wedding (and move).

So yesterday, when I told Mr Fix It that our venue is going to require us to rent a generator to play the video on the tv's I rented for our ceremony, he flipped out.  I asked him if someone out of the 15-20 people who will be staying at his house (and mostly in our wedding party) from his family could pick up the generator on their way to the venue on the day of the wedding.  He went off on how none of them has a car to do this or whatever.  I stayed calm for a while.  And then I snapped at him:

"I have been doing EVERYTHING for this wedding and I ask you and your family to handle one simple task of picking something up when they are on their way to the venue and you can't just handle it for me?!  I am paying for it, I reserved it, I can handle getting it returned the next day, and I got the DJ to agree to unload, load and set it all up for us." 

He finally calmed down and said he'd see if his brother could help out.  I kept reminding him how we have not asked our family or wedding party to do anything at all regarding this wedding other than pay for the clothes we picked out for them and show up in their dress or tux on the day of.  Is that so difficult to ask ONE person to pick something up for us?   ARGH!

Then, after he left, his sister in law happened to call me and I told her about his little blow up.  She lives about 5 minutes from me with Mr Fix It's brother (her husband).  She said that since her hubby and son (our Jr Groomsmen) were going to be getting ready for the wedding and the pictures, she had no problem driving 15 or 20 minutes to pick up the generator for us and bring it with her when she comes for the family pictures.  I was so grateful and glad that was easily handled.  Of course, *I* am the one who got it handled...not Mr Fix It.  Whatever.

At least it's done.  I have a feeling most of the posts leading up to the wedding are going to be more of my rants and full of emotion rather than full of all of the ideas, items, and plans I've been blogging about for the past several months :)  Bare with me!

17 comments:

April Elizabeth said...

i read this and I am reminded of being 15 and how I would never want to be 15 again.

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Sigh Stacey, sorry about all the drama. Yes sometimes the groom just doesn't get it but at least you've sorted it out. Hopefully your daughter is just going through a phase. Good luck with everything dear! If I was in SoCal, I'd gladly lend a hand!

Nicole-Lynn said...

Aw, so sorry a lot is going on causing stress for you right before the wedding. Your grandma will be in my prayers and I do hope that she is ok well until after your wedding. I know things with your daughter will get better, maybe a nice talk with her would help. Things can only get better, right? :) Hang in there! :)

Em said...

Ditto April Elizabeth. At 15 *everything* seems world-ending. She'll be fine. Especially since she'll be driving in a year. Just make sure she knows that you're listening and hearing her concerns. When I was that age I just wanted adults to see where I was coming from and acknowledge that my concerns were valid.

As for the other drama, just hang in there. I don't mind rant-y posts one bit because it shows me (us, your readers) that there are real emotions and real problems that present themselves during wedding planning. So we'll be here to support you in these last few weeks :)

SG said...

Ah the joys of having a teenager where everything is the end of the world. It will take some adjusting but she'll get use to it soon enough. She should be happy she's not having to change schools!

Kristian is the same, it's like pulling teeth to get him to do some things for the wedding. I feel like his mother nagging him at times but it needs to get done.

You only have 23 more days you can do it!

Patience said...

I flipped out this week also. I think the stress has really gotten to me although you have so much more going on. My issue is with L's family. They won't help pay for a single thing. My parents divorced about 8 years ago and my mom is throwing my shower for me which is very expensive and I asked L's mom to pick up some mints and nuts and she told me she could not afford to do so. Wha? L thinks it is crazy also. They have the money they are just being aholes. Ugh!! Hurry up wedding and be over.

PartyPlannerGal said...

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with all of this stress. Just know that you are loved by your family members and friends, and I'm sure they'd be happy to help if you asked. I don't like to ask for help, but I have a feeling that I'm going to need to as the wedding draws closer. Hang in there . . . and as for your daughter, I know I might behave more if I knew that a car was going to float my way on my 16th birthday!

Ghenet said...

Wow, only 23 days to go! I'm also sorry you have to deal with all of this stress, but I know you're going to get through it!

Chocolate Lover said...

Oh Stacey, sorry you are going through all of this. I have a feeling we will all be in similar boats as our own weddings approach! Pay no attention to Mr. Fix It, men are odd about such things at times. I think its the faulty Y chromosome :)
I'm sure your daughter is stressed with all the changes too, but once she sees that no much will change, she'll calm down and move out of this phase. Definitely ask your friends & family to help out in the next couple of weeks! Its crunch time and I'm sure they will be happy to help out where they can.
As for us and comments, well this is the last thing you should be thinking about! We don't mind rants, or absences, and we'll still be here at the end of it all cause we are dying to see all the recaps and what life has to bring for your family after the wedding madness is over! Hang in there!

Genevieve said...

Wow! You have a lot going on! Sorry to hear about your grandma. I hope she hangs in there for a couple of months. I am sure your daughter feels better after getting some emotions out during your fight. I can't believe you have done everything by yourself! You need a break! It is so hard to ask for help, but hopefully you can find someone to help you the rest of the wedding stuff. I hope the next 23 days go as smoothly as possible! You are almost married! So exciting!

Gaynor said...

Sorry you are having to go through all this so soon to the wedding!

Not long to go for both of us!

We are all still here tho! Will be thinking of you on your big day when im relaxing by the pool on our honeymoon!

Gaynor said...

Oh yeah and the guys just dont get it!

Mrs T said...

Oh Stace, why does wedding lead up always have to have drama? So sorry everything is going crazy. Crossing my fingers that everything from now is smoother sailing and your Grandma can be there for your wedding.

Wish I lived there, I would love to be able to help.

P.s. I want to send you something for your wedding. Can you email me your address when you get a chance!

Mrs T said...

P.p.s. My comments have been lighter lately too. Maybe people are just busy with life. I'll comment the heck out of everything - don't worry!

Bicoastal Bride said...

I’ll keep praying for your grandmother, Stacey. I hope things will clam down a bit for you after the major moving is done. And try not to worry too much about the commenting, because I know everyone understands. :)

Brittany said...

I'm so sorry to hear about you stress. Try and relax althought I know it's very difficult! I'm be praying for your grandmother.

buhdoop said...

Hang in there. Crazy things are going to happen, your going to want to yell at everyone. Basically shit is going to happen.

My cousin told me that she was so surprised when none of her bridesmaids, not even her best friend organized anything the week of the wedding or did anything for her. She was upset, but she realized that these people have done wonderful things for her through the years.

Well, I say all that just to say, keep your head up :)

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